Domestic Violence

The terms Family Violence and Domestic Violence are used interchangeably to refer to a complex intermix of harmful, violent, aggressive, and abusive behaviours within a relationship.  Domestic violence is not a about a loss of control, or a crime of passion. Domestic violence is a crime of  power and control.

Below are a range of behaviours that one person can deliberately uses to threaten, control, intimidate or manipulate the other person:

  • Physical Abuse: punching; pushing; hitting; hair pulling; kidnapping; inflicting burns; choking; strangulation; damaging property.
  • Sexual Violence: rape; demands for sex; forced sexual contact; forced to watch pornography; deliberate inflicting of pain during sex; contact with sexually transmitted disease through sexual acts; infidelity.
  • Emotional Abuse: humiliation; gas lighting; mind games; manipulation; harassment; intimidation; stalking; possessiveness/jealousy; blaming the victim; threats to destroy possessions; threats to harm or kill family members or pets.
  • Verbal Abuse: name calling; insults; yelling; swearing; malicious gossip; threats to disclose secrets; bullying.
  • Financial Abuse: preventing or limiting access to money and/or bank accounts; questioning money spent; insufficient money to buy food and necessities; questioning bank statements; threatening to cut-off access to the home or finances if the abuse is reported; purchasing luxury items while forcing others to be denied basic essentials or their ‘fair share’; gambling excessively; withholding child support.
  • Social Abuse: isolation; limiting contact with others, controlling and restricting access to family and friends; enforced confinement in the home; controlling the use of car and/or telephone; not allowing/enforcing religious or cultural practices; continual questioning about whereabouts and checking of phone messages and bills.

  • Reporting to police (if you chose to)
  • Help you identify patterns of abuse
  • Learn the red flags if dangerous relationships
  • Strategies for surviving narcissistic abuse
  • Understanding cognitive dissonance

More Information

Please download the fact sheets below for more information

The Power and Control Wheel

What is it?

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Domestic Violence and Pregnancy

What can happen?

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Domestic Violence and Children

The effects on children and parenting

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Why women stay?

Why abusive relationships?

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Rejecting Violence

How to reject violence

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Men and Domestic Violence

Male victims of abuse

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